This is a topic close to my heart, as I am married to a techie geek. I'm not insulting him - he would probably take it as a compliment, actually. And well he should. Were it not for my husband's tech prowess, I'd still be rolling paper into our old dot-matrix printer and trying to figure out the fax machine. He has succeeded in dragging his at-times technophobic wife into the 21st century, and truly, it needed to happen. This is a wave - a tsunami - that unless we get on top of, we will find ourselves drowned by.
In my practice this is especially true. Social media is a factor (if not the catalystic cause) of the issues for most of the couples I see for therapy. Whether it's a seen email, forbidden text, or controversial Facebook relationship status, social technology is rocking our world. Perhaps it's because it provides a whole new platform for connection - and rejection. Maybe it's due to the fact that one can now clandestinely pursue someone other than one's partner, aided by emails, texts, and secret passwords.
I personally think it's because the Internet holds for us the same pseudo-safety we feel in our cars when we exercise our road rage: we feel invincible, powerful, unseen and safe all at once. It's too easy to forget that behind the computer screen (or smartphone, iPad, or Blackberry screen) there are real people watching, listening, and taking note of our words, pictures, and selves. Many many real people, in fact. Just imagine: would you fill Yankee Stadium just to announce what you ate for breakfast, or how hung over you are? And yet, that's what millions - soon to be billions - do every day on the world's most popular site, Facebook. It's Warhol's 15 minutes of fame on amphetamines and the high school of your worst nightmares wrapped into one.
But it can also be a source of positive connection too. People can now keep in touch with loved ones across the globe faster, easier, and some might say even better than they ever have before at any point in history. And on a much smaller scale, dual-income marrieds can retrieve some of the intimacy of which daily life has robbed them. I know my beloved geek loves to be pinged with random texts throughout the day that let him know I'm thinking of him at that very moment. I myself like to involve him via iPhone pics in the latest havoc our 5 year-old twins have wreaked (thereby preparing him for my mood before he even steps in the door).
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How to Talk to Men (in a Way That They Like!)
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Not only is it okay to talk about yourself to men, but it is 100% essential to getting first dates and future dates. When I tell women that it’s GOOD to talk about themselves, it’s generally met with complete shock. But don’t guys love it when we let them do all the talking?
Well, yes. Who doesn’t like talking about themselves? But unless “good listener” is on the top of his must-have list for potential mates – and I’ve never met a man who places it there – he’s not going to pick you. Imagine him driving home and saying to himself, “That Susie was such a good listener. I can’t wait to see her again!” The only guy who does that is the me-me-me-me guy. And who wants him, anyway?
When you meet a man you like, I want him driving home saying to himself, “That Susie is so interesting/fun to be with/positive/thoughtful/clever…and we both like (fill-in-the-blank). I can’t wait to see her again!” He can not do this unless you give him the information to form the opinion, right?
If you’re one of the many women for whom this does not come naturally, I have three things you can do to start developing the skill of creating conversation that gets you dates.
1. Know yourself.
Here’s a pop-quiz: name five things about yourself that you think men would think are impressive, interesting or just plain lovely.
Go on…I’ll wait.
You see, most women can’t do this. In fact most women are convinced they don’t have five special things about them. That’s just nonsense. You needn’t have cured a disease or saved someone’s life to have bragging rights. I guarantee you that 99% of the men you meet haven’t scaled Mt. Rushmore and don’t speak seven languages. Just like them, there is a multitude of things that make you unique and attractive…to the right guy. So get to work on figuring out what they are so you can talk about it!
2. Speak in headlines; not stories.
Your story will attract the right guy; you just have to know how to tell it. Among the top complaints men have about us gorgeous beings is that we talk too much. Can you believe it?
Men’s brains are wired differently than ours. Information comes in and is processed in a straight line, and they stay focused on the end of that line. What is the result or, in the case of conversation with us, the point?
When men are out scouting prey (Yeah, that’s us!) here’s what they do: is it there? No. Is it there? No. Is it there? No. And they repeat this until they find it and conquer it. Here is what a man DOES NOT do: is it there? No…but, oh look…there is a really pretty tree!
This is why our yappity-yap can absolutely drive them insane and, out of self-preservation, they turn off. So when you’re sharing about yourself – especially when you first meet – short, simple accounts do the trick. I’m learning how to swing dance. I love the music and it’s great exercise. I volunteer at the local animal shelter walking dogs, but cats are really my favorite. Last year I went to Italy, drank wine and ate like a fiend. I’m dying to go back. Start off like that and save the details for the girls. (Or for when he’s a lifetime captive audience and he has no choice!)
3. Manage the conversation.
That brain difference thing gives us a definite leg up when it comes to conversation. When conversation lags or it goes in a whacky direction, it’s our job to keep it going. Don’t complain, sister; just do it. Why? Because we’re better at it!
I’ve seen more dates go awry simply because the conversation went off on some negative tangent, some question was asked that was out of place (the typical “why haven’t you been married yet” comes to mind), or someone simply hogs it. When this happens, you may both end up with the idea that it wasn’t a match.
In fact, a little conversation management can completely change the course of a date, not to mention a relationship. With some practice you can learn to move a conversation along and keep it positive and balanced.
If he is talking too much, it’s okay to interrupt with a smooth transition to a headline of your own. He’ll likely appreciate it and listen. (You may have saved him from himself.) If the conversation goes negative (as it often will if you talk divorce, illness, bad dates, or bad jobs), you can politely acknowledge it and segue to another, more positive, direction.
So often we only have a short time to learn about one another, and when this doesn’t happen it results in a lot of dates that go nowhere. When you master conversation with men, you have the power to make every meeting or date the best it can possibly be. So start practicing and have fun!
Well, yes. Who doesn’t like talking about themselves? But unless “good listener” is on the top of his must-have list for potential mates – and I’ve never met a man who places it there – he’s not going to pick you. Imagine him driving home and saying to himself, “That Susie was such a good listener. I can’t wait to see her again!” The only guy who does that is the me-me-me-me guy. And who wants him, anyway?
When you meet a man you like, I want him driving home saying to himself, “That Susie is so interesting/fun to be with/positive/thoughtful/clever…and we both like (fill-in-the-blank). I can’t wait to see her again!” He can not do this unless you give him the information to form the opinion, right?
If you’re one of the many women for whom this does not come naturally, I have three things you can do to start developing the skill of creating conversation that gets you dates.
1. Know yourself.
Here’s a pop-quiz: name five things about yourself that you think men would think are impressive, interesting or just plain lovely.
Go on…I’ll wait.
You see, most women can’t do this. In fact most women are convinced they don’t have five special things about them. That’s just nonsense. You needn’t have cured a disease or saved someone’s life to have bragging rights. I guarantee you that 99% of the men you meet haven’t scaled Mt. Rushmore and don’t speak seven languages. Just like them, there is a multitude of things that make you unique and attractive…to the right guy. So get to work on figuring out what they are so you can talk about it!
2. Speak in headlines; not stories.
Your story will attract the right guy; you just have to know how to tell it. Among the top complaints men have about us gorgeous beings is that we talk too much. Can you believe it?
Men’s brains are wired differently than ours. Information comes in and is processed in a straight line, and they stay focused on the end of that line. What is the result or, in the case of conversation with us, the point?
When men are out scouting prey (Yeah, that’s us!) here’s what they do: is it there? No. Is it there? No. Is it there? No. And they repeat this until they find it and conquer it. Here is what a man DOES NOT do: is it there? No…but, oh look…there is a really pretty tree!
This is why our yappity-yap can absolutely drive them insane and, out of self-preservation, they turn off. So when you’re sharing about yourself – especially when you first meet – short, simple accounts do the trick. I’m learning how to swing dance. I love the music and it’s great exercise. I volunteer at the local animal shelter walking dogs, but cats are really my favorite. Last year I went to Italy, drank wine and ate like a fiend. I’m dying to go back. Start off like that and save the details for the girls. (Or for when he’s a lifetime captive audience and he has no choice!)
3. Manage the conversation.
That brain difference thing gives us a definite leg up when it comes to conversation. When conversation lags or it goes in a whacky direction, it’s our job to keep it going. Don’t complain, sister; just do it. Why? Because we’re better at it!
I’ve seen more dates go awry simply because the conversation went off on some negative tangent, some question was asked that was out of place (the typical “why haven’t you been married yet” comes to mind), or someone simply hogs it. When this happens, you may both end up with the idea that it wasn’t a match.
In fact, a little conversation management can completely change the course of a date, not to mention a relationship. With some practice you can learn to move a conversation along and keep it positive and balanced.
If he is talking too much, it’s okay to interrupt with a smooth transition to a headline of your own. He’ll likely appreciate it and listen. (You may have saved him from himself.) If the conversation goes negative (as it often will if you talk divorce, illness, bad dates, or bad jobs), you can politely acknowledge it and segue to another, more positive, direction.
So often we only have a short time to learn about one another, and when this doesn’t happen it results in a lot of dates that go nowhere. When you master conversation with men, you have the power to make every meeting or date the best it can possibly be. So start practicing and have fun!
Do You Want Your Girlfriend Back? Discover 2 Ways You Can Get Her Back Here!
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If you're reading this, I'm assuming it's safe for me to say you've hit a rough patch and now you want your girlfriend back into your life. Whatever you do after a breakup can influence whether you can get your ex back or not.
Try these 2 methods if you want to increase your chances of getting her back. If you haven't already done so, apply the no contact rule and your chances of getting her back will greatly increase.
Do You Want Girlfriend Back? Apply the No Contact Rule right NOW
Your ex girlfriend needs time and space away from you to figure out what she wants in her own life. No more phone calls, text messages, emails and the "accidentally" running into her. Reaching out to your ex will just push her away. Don't contact her when she doesn't want you to. Signs of her not wanting to hear from you is when she chooses to ignore your messages and doesn't respond to any of your attempts. When you constantly call or message her, you are just telling her that you don't care about what she wants and that will make matters worse for you.
By reaching out to her in your state of mind, you're behaving out of desperation, which is not good at all. Ultimately, the more you reach out to your ex, the more desperate you look and the more you will repel her away out of your life for good.
Do You Want Girlfriend Back? Improve Yourself to Attract Her Back
The only way to get your girlfriend back is by attracting her. If you're applying the No Contact rule, you're taking extra measures to get her back. But work on your self-improvement during that time you aren't contacting your ex. It is difficult to be attractive since breakups can really damage your self-esteem and confidence. This is why working on yourself will increase your chances of getting her back because you're working on your self confidence along the way.
Several people put old relationships, hobbies, and interest on the back burner while they're in a relationship. Spend time on those things now. Restore your connection with old friends and family you've lost touch with since your relationship. You can either have a new hobby or do things you enjoy but never had time for until now. You'll start to feel better about yourself and before you know it, you will regain your confidence.
You're at a much better state to attract your ex if you want your ex girlfriend back with the no contact rule and personal development. When you have the mindset ready to get her back, you'll become that person she initially was attracted to in the first place.
If you want your ex girlfriend back, the first time you connect with her (after a month of no contact) should be casual and friendly. Avoid bringing up your relationship. Since it will be a new relationship, you'll have to treat it as a new relationship. Again, begin to date her and begin your new relationship on a new slate. Remember, you want to treat this second time around as a new relationship, otherwise you'll end up going down the same road that led you both to a breakup.
Try these 2 methods if you want to increase your chances of getting her back. If you haven't already done so, apply the no contact rule and your chances of getting her back will greatly increase.
Do You Want Girlfriend Back? Apply the No Contact Rule right NOW
Your ex girlfriend needs time and space away from you to figure out what she wants in her own life. No more phone calls, text messages, emails and the "accidentally" running into her. Reaching out to your ex will just push her away. Don't contact her when she doesn't want you to. Signs of her not wanting to hear from you is when she chooses to ignore your messages and doesn't respond to any of your attempts. When you constantly call or message her, you are just telling her that you don't care about what she wants and that will make matters worse for you.
By reaching out to her in your state of mind, you're behaving out of desperation, which is not good at all. Ultimately, the more you reach out to your ex, the more desperate you look and the more you will repel her away out of your life for good.
Do You Want Girlfriend Back? Improve Yourself to Attract Her Back
The only way to get your girlfriend back is by attracting her. If you're applying the No Contact rule, you're taking extra measures to get her back. But work on your self-improvement during that time you aren't contacting your ex. It is difficult to be attractive since breakups can really damage your self-esteem and confidence. This is why working on yourself will increase your chances of getting her back because you're working on your self confidence along the way.
Several people put old relationships, hobbies, and interest on the back burner while they're in a relationship. Spend time on those things now. Restore your connection with old friends and family you've lost touch with since your relationship. You can either have a new hobby or do things you enjoy but never had time for until now. You'll start to feel better about yourself and before you know it, you will regain your confidence.
You're at a much better state to attract your ex if you want your ex girlfriend back with the no contact rule and personal development. When you have the mindset ready to get her back, you'll become that person she initially was attracted to in the first place.
If you want your ex girlfriend back, the first time you connect with her (after a month of no contact) should be casual and friendly. Avoid bringing up your relationship. Since it will be a new relationship, you'll have to treat it as a new relationship. Again, begin to date her and begin your new relationship on a new slate. Remember, you want to treat this second time around as a new relationship, otherwise you'll end up going down the same road that led you both to a breakup.
Dating Article: 40 Tips to melt a woman heart
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Here are some beautiful tips for the lovers to melt the heart of their partner or love to make their relation and love more strong. These tips would help you to make your love more powerful and leads to happy and successful love life.1. Ask her to dance.
2. On windy days, brush wayward strands of hair from her eyes and mouth.
3. When she’s coming down the street, across the room, or up the stairs to meet you, walk towards her as soon as you see her.
4. Kiss her between her shoulder blades when she turns her back to you to go to sleep.
5. Put your arm around her when you introduce her to your friends and family.
6. Grasp her hand when a scantily dressed, beautiful woman walks by.
7. Call her when you’re feeling sad.
8. Kiss her eyelids.
9. Ask to see a picture of her when she was a child.
10. Wash her from head to toe in the shower.
11. If she’s crying on the phone, go over to her place. Immediately.
13. Occasionally call her by her first and middle names.
14. Buy her your favourite rock album of all time on vinyl.
15. Order coffee for her, remembering exactly how she likes it.
16. Undress her and put her to bed when she falls asleep in the car.
17. Mention your upcoming anniversary before she does.
18. Send her something in the mail. Anything!
19. When she’s feeling insecure, stare into her eyes and tell her there is no-one in the world who could be as right for you as she is.
20. Call her just before you get on the plane.
21. Pick her clothes up off the floor.
22. Try desperately to make her laugh when she’s feeling down.
23. Take her to see your favourite sport live. Pay more attention to her than to the game.
24. Touch her arm when you leave the table to go to the bathroom. Touch her again when you come back.
25. Shave just before you see her. She’ll notice.
26. Hug her when she gets jealous. Hug her hard.
27. Worship her breasts.
28. Give her jewellery.
29. Hand her two towels when she gets out of the shower. (The second one is for her hair.)
30. Ask her specific questions about her work.
31. Keep her favourite cereal on hand.
32. In the middle of a conversation, tell her you love her.
33. Send her very expensive flowers when you screw up.
34. Take her to a cabin with a fireplace. Build her a fire.
35. Moan her name when she goes down on you.
36. Read her a story when it’s her turn to drive during a long road trip.
37. Offer to fix something at her place that you realise is broken.
38. Notice when she’s wearing something new.
39. Make love to her standing up, against a wall.
40. Kiss her hand in front of your most die-hard bachelor buddies.
Read the tips again & again and try to be practicle. These tips surely enhance love in your love or partner. Women only need love, these are the ways she feels your love. Just show her love and win her heart.
Cute Romantic Love SMS Messages
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My Love
I want to say
Time stops
When
our arms entwine
and your heart
beats for mine!
I love you my valentine!
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My life is fragrant
My life is full of passion
My life is a garden in which blossoms of
your love are blooming
My life it’s all because of you
I m happy you are mine.
I love You.
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Look deep into my heart
Here you will find
A picture of that person
Who has filled my life
with the frangrance
and
light of her love.
That’s you my sweetheart.
I love you.
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I want to say
Time stops
When
our arms entwine
and your heart
beats for mine!
I love you my valentine!
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My life is fragrant
My life is full of passion
My life is a garden in which blossoms of
your love are blooming
My life it’s all because of you
I m happy you are mine.
I love You.
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Look deep into my heart
Here you will find
A picture of that person
Who has filled my life
with the frangrance
and
light of her love.
That’s you my sweetheart.
I love you.
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New short love stories newsletter
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So, I’ve been playing around with what you want.
I’ve also been writing, and am getting kind of sick of having everything gather dust on my laptop or in my file drawer. I have scraps and pieces, although nothing is fully put together yet.
But I keep feeling that people who come want something, and that I might have something to give.
Make sense?
Thus, I just set up a special newsletter for short love stories. When you sign up, you’ll get a weekly original short love story from me every Saturday. Once things are underway, I’ll also give you super-secret password protected posts here that will be the “library” of stories from the newsletter.
Here’s the catch — I’ve never actually put my creative writing out there, so this whole thing is kind of an experiment.
It might be wonderful. It might stink. It might be both.
Whatever happens, it can be our little secret. And then, someday when I’m hugely popular you can say, “Hey, I knew her way back when she just sent out little stories once a week… and about half of them were terrible… but I love her anyway and want her autograph…”
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